Is Suicide Inevitable for Some People?

September 16, 2013
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A 61-year-old man, E.H., survived suicide attempts, received care for depression in psychiatric hospitals, and battled alcoholism for many years. His father died by suicide. E.H. was convinced that one day he, too, would kill himself. In 1961, he fatally shot himself in the head.

Was his suicide inevitable?

Ernest Hemingway, the famous author and the man described above, died by suicide in 1961. Eventually suicide also would claim two siblings and a granddaughter. A controversial article uses Hemingway as an example of what the author calls “inevitable suicide”: “the patient whose suicide will occur regardless of the most expert and skilled therapeutic intervention.”

The article’s author, Benjamin Sadock, MD, blames this (supposed) inevitability on the unfortunate confluence of factors that can create excruciating despair, pain, and pathology: “When all of these areas—mental illness, genetics, and other risk factors— reach a critical mass, the extent of which remains to be determined, the likelihood of a particular patient taking his or her own life is increased to the point of inevitability.”

Dissenting Views: Suicide is Not Inevitable for a Specific Person

Two letters to the editor came out a few months after Dr. Sadock’s article. One letter, by psychologist Thomas Ellis, PsyD, states:

“…the word inevitable is appropriate in some contexts, such as, ‘It is inevitable that some suicides will occur among psychiatric patients.’ But it is a different matter to suggest that some individuals’ suicides are or were inevitable. To do so is to risk rationalizing patient care practices that should be examined and corrected.”

The other letter, by Thambu Maniam, MBSS, MPsychMed, likewise objects to the notion that any one person’s suicide was inevitable:

“I remember a psychiatrist, whose patient had recently committed suicide, saying ‘You can’t stop suicide. Whatever you do, they will still die.’ I wonder what consequences such a fatalistic view would have on his practice.”

My View: Suicide Prevention is Limited, but a Specific Person’s Suicide is Not Inevitable

If you think of suicide, call 988 suicide and crisis lifeline or text 741741 to reach Crisis Text LineIt’s true that, with our present state of knowledge, suicide is not 100% preventable. So in that sense, in general, some suicides are inevitable. But – and this is an important distinction – the suicide of any one person in particular never is or was inevitable.

As long as the suicidal person is alive, there is hope for change. Anything can happen in life at any moment to change the person’s situation, suffering or outlook.

Mental health professionals have many tools to help a suicidal client recover hope, strengthen reasons for living, learn to cope better with emotional pain, and recover from psychological problems such as depression. Cognitive behavioral therapy and other evidence-based treatments, active listening, risk assessment, safety planning, skills training in mindfulness and other coping techniques, and the therapeutic relationship itself are just some of the healing tools that mental health professionals can draw from. Physicians and prescribing nurses have the added tool of medications.

So why would Dr. Sadock declare some people’s suicides inevitable? He has good, if misguided, intentions. He writes that the concept of “inevitable suicide” can lessen the guilt of clinicians who unfairly blame themselves for the suicide of a client.

The implication seems to be that if a specific client was going to die by suicide no matter what, then the people treating that person are not to blame. But this is a false dichotomy. A suicide need not be “inevitable” for a clinician to be blameless. 

Many factors that can lead up to a suicide are well beyond the clinician’s control. This fact does not mean that any one specific person’s suicide is inevitable, only that we are inherently limited in what they can do to prevent suicide in general.

“Inevitability of Suicide” versus “Limitations in Suicide Prevention”

As I said above, anything can happen at any moment to change a suicidal person’s path. This works both for us and against us. Although positive changes can occur suddenly, so can negative changes. There are so many things beyond the clinician’s control that the suicide of a client does not necessarily mean that the clinician did a bad job.

With our current state of knowledge and tools, it is impossible to predict who will or will not attempt suicide. Some clients understate their suicidal intent, to avoid psychiatric hospitalization or interruption of their suicidal plan. On top of that, mental illnesses respond unpredictably to psychological and pharmacological treatments, with no treatment offering 100% effectiveness. 

And those are only a few of the limitations inherent to suicide prevention. We are limited in other ways, too, which I describe in my post: “You Can’t Do Everything”: Limitations in Helping a Suicidal Person. My motto is, “Do everything you can but know that you cannot do everything.”

Summing Up: Hope, Hopelessness, & Suicide

Even when mental health professionals bring all their skills and training into the room, even when they conduct a thorough risk assessment, even when they develop an attentive, empathic, therapeutic relationship with the client, even when they do do everything they can, the client still might die by suicide.

It might sound like I agree with Dr. Sadock about the inevitability of some people’s suicides. I do not. Recall that he defines inevitable suicide as “the patient whose suicide will occur regardless of the most expert and skilled therapeutic intervention.” I agree that some people will die by suicide despite their clinicians’ “most expert and skilled therapeutic intervention.” I disagree that this means those people’s suicides were inevitable. To say that any one person’s suicide is inevitable is a nihilistic view that degrades hope, belies possibility for change, and can lead to complacency on the part of the professional.

Instead of deeming suicide inevitable for any specific suicidal client, we need to look at the limitations that mental health professionals face with every suicidal client. These limitations merit research and other efforts to diminish them. I am grateful that we usually can help suicidal clients in spite of those limitations.

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© Copyright 2013 Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, LCSW, All Rights Reserved. Written for www.speakingofsuicide.com.Photo purchased from Fotolia.com.

Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, LCSW

I’m a psychotherapist, educator, writer, consultant, and speaker, and I specialize in helping people who have suicidal thoughts or behavior. In addition to creating this website, I’ve authored two books: Helping the Suicidal Person: Tips and Techniques for Professionals and Loving Someone with Suicidal Thoughts: What Family, Friends, and Partners Can Say and Do. I’m an associate professor at the University of Denver Graduate School of Social Work, and I have a psychotherapy and consulting practice. My passion for helping suicidal people stems from my own lived experience with suicidality and suicide loss. You can learn more about me at staceyfreedenthal.com.

57 Comments Leave a Comment

  1. I have been suicidal for 2 years now, I have made two attempts.
    I hate myself for my deluded decision s over 20 years , I had suffered anxiety throughout school but never spoke to any medical professionals until I was in my later twenties.
    Initially the doctor i spoke to made light of my symptoms. I carried on but struggle d.
    Two years later I got very depressed and had what I believe was a mental breakdown.
    The anxiety was extreme, I lost my main job but was prescribed anti depressants and began to feel better than I had been for alot of years.My mind was racing with ideas , deluded ones . I could not see this.
    I made bad decisions in business I was involved in and it took twenty years for this to dawn on me. I withdrew from productive business without seeing where this was bound to end.
    I think my life is an example of how poor mental health going un treated will eventually destroy you, economically and cause immense harm to your family.
    I also believe the venlafaxine made me deluded which I was not before. It made me feel better but I lost a sense of reality.
    In many ways I blame the first doctor I saw who was not having any belief in what I told him, I am also epileptic so he ought to have listened. I had not seen him for along time so I was not hypercondriac or a regular pain in the ass medically at that time.
    In the following few years untreated I went from anxious to extremely depressed. My life has been in decline since then,yes the venlafaxine made me feel better initially but I had already lost my main job by then.
    I try to think I may get better but I can’t see a way out, I dont see joy in life. The anxiety is extreme. I have family who care .
    Despite this I feel like I am a burden and hate my deluded decision s. I have always tried until the last year or so but despite this I think I am doomed to end my life in struggle.
    I tell myself another day, you still have the choice to exit this world another time.
    Poor mental health is terrible burden and not one with any easy answers .
    Suicide whilst considered selfish is an end to the anguish and suffering.
    Its easy to say its selfish if you dont suffer these terrible symptoms.

  2. Unless you have experienced the journey to the point of suicide you really have no idea of the trigger and the how instant it can be
    I have struggled for a number of years tried and failed which is my biggest regret and it’s an embarrassment
    For me it’s not a case of if it’s when ..no one has the power to stop me and knowing that I can gives me a security that you will never comprehend

  3. Hello, thank you for your answer before.
    If mental health professionals feels his/her patient’s problems are too much or may be beyond help, are there still any hope that the patient can keep living? If the patient’s country allowing euthanasia, can he/she ask for assisted suicide? Thank you

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